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Feb 12
Slut Shaming
I was browsing videos on youtube and came across this one. This video is a 13-year old girl who talks about “Slut Shaming and Why its wrong.”
I was shocked that a young woman would put herself on youtube and discuss this topic so openly when I first clicked on the link. But then as she was talking about how girls that she knows of her own age were “slut shaming” amongst other things, and I looked about on how my friends and I talked at her age I stopped being so “adult” about it and listened to what she had to say.
I think my favorite part of the video is when she talks about where slut shaming is from and what kind of societies have slut shaming – rape culture. She is a very intelligent 13-year old and there definately needs to be more women (and men) out there to stand against slut shaming and many other things.
This young women seems to be much smarter than her age would give her credit for. I just read the article My Sluthood, Myself and was amazed at how the writer took control of her own sexual life. It has to be liberating to escape the hegemony around sex and “sluttyness” today. Women should not feel any pressure to express themselves or their rights to a good role in the hay if they so choose. I try and keep an open mind about things but I still find myself falling into the pattern of judgement. I know in time I will become a more open minded person I just have to break from the norms society has engrained into me before I was able to break from the mold.
I think the problem is two-fold. One, there is not a cultural equivalent of “slut” for men. If men had to worry about the number of their sexual partners just like women do, then maybe we could start to break down the attitude of men that can lead towards rape.
Second, women also need an equivalent for “player” that can allow them to be sexually diverse without having to worry about a negative impact on their reputation.
Together these four terms that would apply equally to men and women can help keep people bound between experimentation and pleasure.
I don’t think it would be as successful to just try to eradicate slut – that sounds a little too Orwellian Newspeak for me. I think we should add to our conceptual base, not take away from it.
Also, this young lady is amazingly smart, and she has a great voice with character and depth!
I found this video very interesting because at the age of thirteen, I was not talking about the things she does in her video. I really admire the fact that she is so young and is trying to change the opinion of others on slut shaming. Now that I am in college I would talk about subjects like the ones she is but at age thirteen, I was more concerned with playing with friends, sports and school. I didn’t really care if my friends or people that I knew were having sex. Maybe I was too busy being a child, but this girl is well informed. I admire how she wanted to keep it Mature, respectful and classy. It also makes me realize that children are being exposed to more sexual content at a younger age. The video is very short but it says exactly what she was trying to get across.
This video was shocking to me. I grew up in a strict catholic family. Sex is not something we discussed openly, or even talked about. If I talked like this at the age 13, my parents would die. I am 22 and my family and I still aren’t open about sex. Idea of slut shaming was something I had never heard of, but I agree with this girl. It’s not fair for a woman to not be able to like having sex, and to admit it, if woman like sex there should be no shame in that. Is also made me think of when a woman gets pregnant how society looks down so badly upon the woman or girl who got pregnant but not the man who impregnated her. The girl is usually always blamed.